Feminine Stoicism: A Service To The Masculine In Men

The strength card in the tarot — which depicts a woman holding a lion’s mouth closed — represents emotional resilience.

NOTICE: this content will be using gendered language; this content can and does apply to ALL gender expressions. Masculine and feminine are relational postures and energetic essences — they are related to biological sex, yet are not limited to physical expressions or social roles.

I will be using the pronouns “he” and “she” to refer to these postures/essences. …


“Joan of Arc,” by Albert Lynch

Recently I downloaded a dating app for the first time in several years.

I deleted it.

I’m a relationship anarchist, but I’m not a very good one.

Intimacy is scary. Folks well-versed in attachment theory will tell you that a securely attached person has a positive outlook on intimacy and connection; this is because they are able to maintain healthy boundaries while also being able to connect to others.

The science of attachment gives us evidence that humans adapted to experience connection. We’re wired for intimacy, so much so that when we don’t get it — or we get too…


“Eve and The Serpent,” Henri Rousseu

I’ve noticed an implicit assumption in some pro-feminist circles that women don’t possess a desire for vengeance — just a desire for equality and respect.

I propose that both can be true.

Assuming women must only be after the good/true/beautiful is a friendlier manifestation of sex bias, because we are assumed to be beings that are caring, loving, and gentle *at all times.*

There is evidence to suggest that we may be more so inclined (by cultural and/or biological design), but reducing us to these aspects of ourselves in the name of equality just…doesn’t make that much sense.

It still…


Wanna talk about white privilege? Sure.

Or perhaps the conversation is a little too centred around the ‘social capital’ of being white, and not enough around the privilege one must have to even be having these kinds of conversations — and how beneficial and positive that actually is.

Perhaps we need to focus more on the complexity of the experience of privilege itself — on the benefits and detriments (yes, privilege can have detriments) of being a post-industrial westerner, and how this uniquely informs our perspectives — for better and sometimes for worse.

So many complain about lack of diversity…


Recently I was telling a mentor of mine that I was feeling ‘dissociative’ lately, but that I didn’t mind being in this state. In fact, I’ve come to enjoy it a bit – yet I felt as if there was something wrong about this newfound pleasure.

He told me that dissociation can actually be healthy and useful – provided that the state is consciously controlled – and referred to this state of consciousness as ‘being in witness.’

I really treasure this reframe, namely because I’ve spent a lot of my life in resistance to any states I felt were not…


On a cosmic level, I’m probably here to help my uncle confront the unavoidable chaos of reality that he continuously bypasses.

On a human level, I’m just a massive pain in the ass.

My uncle has MS, which means I have to lift the 10 gallon bottles of spring water (Newark’s tap isn’t considered safe for consumption) up the basement stairs and onto his water dispenser in the kitchen when it’s time for them to be replaced.

I’m strong, but clumsy. And I usually don’t realise I’m dissociating until it’s too late and something has been broken or spilled.

I…


‘You’re too funny,’ he says, the skin around his eyes wrinkling in accompaniment of a Dionysian grin. ‘I can’t handle it. I have to kill you.’

I grab my sides, shaking with laughter. ‘Oh god yes, please,’ I say, leaning against the kitchen wall. ‘Take me away from this cruel world.’

Still grinning, he picks up the butchers knife on the counter and raises it toward me. I flinch. Noticing immediately, he puts it down, grin draining from his lips and spilling onto the floor.

‘What’s wrong?’ He says. I am frozen. …


You didn’t ask for it, and here it is: my final article in the four part series where I explain the issues I have with the ideology of antiracism.

Antiracism calls for vigilance in the personal, interpersonal, and interobjective (systemic) spaces, encouraging individuals to interrupt racism when they see it and combat any racist ‘microaggressions’ or behaviours within themselves.

The problem with antiracism is that while it looks noble on paper, in practice it has the potential to become as damaging as it’s nemesis. This is because:

1) It redefines racism as a ‘system of oppression’ as a means of…


Welcome to part 3 of my series critiquing antiracism. To access parts one and two, visit the links at the end of this article.

Antiracism calls for vigilance in the personal, interpersonal, and interobjective (systemic) spaces, encouraging individuals to interrupt racism when they see it and combat any racist ‘microaggressions’ or behaviours within themselves.

The problem with antiracism is that while it looks noble on paper, in practice it has the potential to become as damaging as it’s nemesis. This is because:

1) It redefines racism as a “system of oppression” as a means of determining who can and cannot…


I wrote a post the other day regarding some issues I have with the ideology of antiracism, an ideology that has increased in popularity this past year in response to the gratuitous killings of unarmed black citizens at the hands of police. You can find it here.

Antiracism calls for vigilance in the personal, interpersonal, and interobjective spaces, encouraging individuals to interrupt racism when they see it and combat any racist ‘microaggressions’ or behaviours within themselves.

The problem with antiracism is that while it looks noble on paper, in practice it has the potential to become as damaging as it’s…

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